I've been following the blog for a long time and I've learned a lot. I'm following the Red pill Forum, of course. I don't have a problem with accepting my mistakes, and on the contrary, I would like to share what I have to share with you or with the blog. You can publish it if you see fit. Even if you don't have to publish, reading and interpreting will add a lot to me. The summary of the incident is beyond the mercenary and the concrete. I do not think that people who have learned something from this blog will fall into this situation. This is the conversation between me and the girl. We were in the same class as the girl, and as you know, the Whatsapp group was set up. I was thinking about texting the girl, but she threw me the first message in a way I didn't expect. The speeches were going well, but it was a mistake that I often texted, which was also mentioned in the men's block. At the end of the 2-week process, when the man who did not care and did not
Although the title of the article series is “practical”, we will continue the first part, which is quite theoretical, and we will give you advice that will be useful in practice to get good habits. :
Small steps
Your brain is resisting sudden changes. If you motivate yourself to do a huge job like “starting tomorrow, I'll be a brand new person,” you can't do anything but consume yourself and get back to work quickly. Big and sudden changes don't work, slow and stable changes don't work. This is the yo – yo effect of discipline. You must go to the exact border of your comfort zone, this is the only sustainable attitude.
If you move in small steps, you will realize that you are a different person within a year, but you will not know exactly when and how the transformation is.
The secret is to make a small change and allow your brain to accept it as a new baseline. This will make the next step easier because the baseline has risen slightly. Repeat this for a new change. Then repeat again …
What I'm going to say Now may seem very selfish to you, but it's not : big things happen in small things. The small changes you make persistently and follow every day produce surprisingly large results.
Use the stairs every day. Maybe you'll burn 5 to 10 calories a day, but in a year, this is equivalent to a magic pizza. If you take 2 minutes a day to make small improvements at home, you'll be surprised how tidy your home is in a month.
Small but stable things. Use the stairs. Your brain will resist sudden changes but gradual changes bypass this resistance. Which brings us to the next point.
Principle Of Stage
You can perform large changes by splitting them into smaller, progressive, manageable steps. The secret is that you don't realize that you're undergoing a major change with the anti – change troll in your brain. Resistance increases exponentially with the magnitude of change, the relationship between them is not directly proportional. This principle works in many areas of life :
“Hello, would you like to work for a foreign state to betray your own country? not by saying. With a series of harmless and defensible steps – meals, small gifts, and very sensitive information, the event eventually leads to great betrayal. In the porn industry, they don't go to the girl they turn off the street and ask, “you're going to have anal sex with five black bodybuilders.” It starts with pretty, semi-nude photos (see this is a normal modeling job) and goes to semi – nice and nude photos and then ... you get it. These are sneaky things.
“The frog in the boiling water” you know the mind exercise – although it sounds like superstition, it is said that if you pour boiling water into the pot where a frog is found, the frog runs out of the pot, but if you pour cold water and boil slowly, the frog stays in the pot and boils. I don't know who wants to do such an experiment, or if it's real, but that's what you need to do with lazy, saboteur, pretentious trawlers inside you. Boil the fucking troll alive. Slowly, without letting him know.
We want to use this mechanism for a good purpose.
Want to do more sports? Let's go. You want to pay attention to what you eat? First, just take one bad thing out of your life – sweet / sugar probably. You want to quit smoking? Take that last cigarette of the day, break it and flush it. That brings us to the next position. :
Planned Planning Of Exceptions
The best way to manage your bad habits is to accept them and schedule them. You can't wish to destroy bad habits, but you can control them and guide their inertia by adding them to your plans. This is judo method.
The key here is to control timing and dosage. Are you on a diet? Plan the days when you don't diet (for example, once a week). Do you waste precious hours of your life on Facebook? “OK no facebook anymore” – wrong. “Facebook only 20 minutes each evening to keep in touch with friends” – the right method.
Remember that your brain is resisting sudden changes, especially if these changes are the ones that deprive you of instant enjoyment. When you leave a psychological addiction suddenly you will return as frustration, failure and self-loathing.
You can bypass this by accepting and planning Exceptions (with no unplanned Exceptions). “Today is my shift day and I'm going to stay home and play the Don athlete computer and eat pizza.” But do it planned, do it less, and do it consciously – don't let it happen to you all of a sudden. It's better to have any plan than not knowing what to do without planning.
Paradoxes say that the Slips you tolerate are not even enjoyable. They make you feel guilty and worthless. But what you do consciously and plan is relaxing and enjoyable. There will also be days to watch pajamas, ice cream and Gilmore girls episodes in a row. But don't let that happen to you unplanned.
Pushing and commitments
Another powerful trick is to do “push” in the right direction, but less resistance, to prevent resistance from doing something good for yourself. Let me explain.
The aim here is to take symbolic steps that do not create resistance in the right direction and the brain without activating the Troll. I learned this concept from Scott Adams. If you are not in the mood to do sports, but you need to do, Wear Sports clothes. Isn't that easy? This will be enough for your brain to shift gears and find yourself when doing sports.
Take small and symbolic steps towards your goal of change. I recommend Dan Ariely's work on this kind of push and reminders. If you are going to buy gym shorts and food, get it right this time. Thus, you give priority to making healthy choices.
There are two reasons for this to work – the push priority (and here) çok çok çok çok important), needs consistency. I'm a person who makes healthy choices. That's why I shouldn't go into the junk food store.”
Consistency works because inconsistency threatens the integrity of the ego. Our past choices form our identity and we would like to preserve it. You are officially making healthy choices for your own integrity. Ego-Defense works for you.
Allow me to repeat again : consistency is necessary for your self-perception to survive. You can use it to do things that are simple, small, intelligent, and non-resistance, and you can lock yourself in a useful way. This is the nuclear arsenal of life management. Use it wisely.
Small steps
Your brain is resisting sudden changes. If you motivate yourself to do a huge job like “starting tomorrow, I'll be a brand new person,” you can't do anything but consume yourself and get back to work quickly. Big and sudden changes don't work, slow and stable changes don't work. This is the yo – yo effect of discipline. You must go to the exact border of your comfort zone, this is the only sustainable attitude.
If you move in small steps, you will realize that you are a different person within a year, but you will not know exactly when and how the transformation is.
The secret is to make a small change and allow your brain to accept it as a new baseline. This will make the next step easier because the baseline has risen slightly. Repeat this for a new change. Then repeat again …
What I'm going to say Now may seem very selfish to you, but it's not : big things happen in small things. The small changes you make persistently and follow every day produce surprisingly large results.
Use the stairs every day. Maybe you'll burn 5 to 10 calories a day, but in a year, this is equivalent to a magic pizza. If you take 2 minutes a day to make small improvements at home, you'll be surprised how tidy your home is in a month.
Small but stable things. Use the stairs. Your brain will resist sudden changes but gradual changes bypass this resistance. Which brings us to the next point.
Principle Of Stage
You can perform large changes by splitting them into smaller, progressive, manageable steps. The secret is that you don't realize that you're undergoing a major change with the anti – change troll in your brain. Resistance increases exponentially with the magnitude of change, the relationship between them is not directly proportional. This principle works in many areas of life :
“Hello, would you like to work for a foreign state to betray your own country? not by saying. With a series of harmless and defensible steps – meals, small gifts, and very sensitive information, the event eventually leads to great betrayal. In the porn industry, they don't go to the girl they turn off the street and ask, “you're going to have anal sex with five black bodybuilders.” It starts with pretty, semi-nude photos (see this is a normal modeling job) and goes to semi – nice and nude photos and then ... you get it. These are sneaky things.
“The frog in the boiling water” you know the mind exercise – although it sounds like superstition, it is said that if you pour boiling water into the pot where a frog is found, the frog runs out of the pot, but if you pour cold water and boil slowly, the frog stays in the pot and boils. I don't know who wants to do such an experiment, or if it's real, but that's what you need to do with lazy, saboteur, pretentious trawlers inside you. Boil the fucking troll alive. Slowly, without letting him know.
We want to use this mechanism for a good purpose.
Want to do more sports? Let's go. You want to pay attention to what you eat? First, just take one bad thing out of your life – sweet / sugar probably. You want to quit smoking? Take that last cigarette of the day, break it and flush it. That brings us to the next position. :
Planned Planning Of Exceptions
The best way to manage your bad habits is to accept them and schedule them. You can't wish to destroy bad habits, but you can control them and guide their inertia by adding them to your plans. This is judo method.
The key here is to control timing and dosage. Are you on a diet? Plan the days when you don't diet (for example, once a week). Do you waste precious hours of your life on Facebook? “OK no facebook anymore” – wrong. “Facebook only 20 minutes each evening to keep in touch with friends” – the right method.
Remember that your brain is resisting sudden changes, especially if these changes are the ones that deprive you of instant enjoyment. When you leave a psychological addiction suddenly you will return as frustration, failure and self-loathing.
You can bypass this by accepting and planning Exceptions (with no unplanned Exceptions). “Today is my shift day and I'm going to stay home and play the Don athlete computer and eat pizza.” But do it planned, do it less, and do it consciously – don't let it happen to you all of a sudden. It's better to have any plan than not knowing what to do without planning.
Paradoxes say that the Slips you tolerate are not even enjoyable. They make you feel guilty and worthless. But what you do consciously and plan is relaxing and enjoyable. There will also be days to watch pajamas, ice cream and Gilmore girls episodes in a row. But don't let that happen to you unplanned.
Pushing and commitments
Another powerful trick is to do “push” in the right direction, but less resistance, to prevent resistance from doing something good for yourself. Let me explain.
The aim here is to take symbolic steps that do not create resistance in the right direction and the brain without activating the Troll. I learned this concept from Scott Adams. If you are not in the mood to do sports, but you need to do, Wear Sports clothes. Isn't that easy? This will be enough for your brain to shift gears and find yourself when doing sports.
Take small and symbolic steps towards your goal of change. I recommend Dan Ariely's work on this kind of push and reminders. If you are going to buy gym shorts and food, get it right this time. Thus, you give priority to making healthy choices.
There are two reasons for this to work – the push priority (and here) çok çok çok çok important), needs consistency. I'm a person who makes healthy choices. That's why I shouldn't go into the junk food store.”
Consistency works because inconsistency threatens the integrity of the ego. Our past choices form our identity and we would like to preserve it. You are officially making healthy choices for your own integrity. Ego-Defense works for you.
Allow me to repeat again : consistency is necessary for your self-perception to survive. You can use it to do things that are simple, small, intelligent, and non-resistance, and you can lock yourself in a useful way. This is the nuclear arsenal of life management. Use it wisely.
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