Don't Let A Woman Impose Her Frame

Each interaction includes a framework in which one person is judged and judged and the other is engaged in satisfaction. The higher the value, naturally, enters the frame of assessment, and the lower the value, the lower the frame of self-proof and satisfaction. While many men are with a woman, without much thought on it, ast falls into the frame by allowing the development of the interaction in that way.

We've been taught to answer questions since we were kids. At school, when we answered the questions correctly, we were rewarded by our teachers, and even at University, we took notes by influencing the professor with our mastery of the subject. The problem is that we carry our need for approval to our adulthood, and we let others dominate us by explaining our behavior and thoughts. In fact, many people are too eager to answer the question when asked. But by doing so, AST agrees to fall into the frame.

For example, a question women frequently ask is, “what do you do?”stop. By answering this woman's question quickly, you automatically enter the frame of her “prove herself to me”. Therefore, in My Book Bang, I teach you that in the early times of the interaction that you built your charm, you should never answer women directly. Better yet, it is a mixed answer with a joke that shows you that you don't care about it. Contrary to logic, it increases the interest of this woman in you, because you must be more valuable than most men before you refuse to do what they eagerly do.

Another example is that a colleague who is not your boss said to you, “why did you do this?"he asks. In this case, your colleague is trying to establish a higher framework by putting you in a defensive position. The answer to the rejection of his frame is not to explain to him why you chose to do this. “How did you do it? as long as he doesn't ask the question. The question is how to get him into the AST frame so he can learn something from you. In addition, you will also encounter colleagues who seek small-scale favors.

How do you feel when you have sex with a woman for the first time and your performance is bad? Because you feel down at that moment, you can say something like “next time it will be longer” or “I shouldn't have been drinking that much.” This makes you the person you are expected to satisfy. She'il probably see you as a weak man. A man who has confidence in his own value does not disrupt one bad sexual experience, or at least he does not feel it necessary to explain / defend it.

Trying to explain yourself in any way is the easiest way to lose the frame. This should not be done only until the other person shows his / her AST frame over and over again. For example, if a woman is constantly trying to prove herself in front of you, you can throw a bone to feed her once in a while. But you have to do it just because you want to, so that the woman can feel a basic sense of trust in the relationship.

Important note: natural Alpha males tend to reject the AST frame automatically. Their instincts tell them not to explain themselves. Because these men see themselves as high-value, they can protect the frame by themselves. If you are not a natural Alpha, you will have to do it every time the woman asks you questions or asks you something, thinking that you are not imposing the framework (“can you hold my bag?” " ). If the woman is trying to impose her frame on you, you must deflect the question. Make a joke or “confirm-and- - abart” that you are the top side of the interaction. If you do not do this, the woman slowly absorbs your power and uses it to take care of you or to take advantage of you, as evidenced by the wives of married men for several years.

You should try to come to a point where you have high expectations from a woman, but she has very little expectations from you. He must follow you as you behave. This requires a considerable amount of self-worth, but you can simulate it by not getting into the frame of those who ask you for something until you get that value.